Destination Wedding?
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I am not capable of not thinking about something that I want to think about. So here I am, back again on the same theme. (I'm sure Alan is sick of me asking him silly questions about wedding stuff.) ... but I have come to terms with my situation: not knowing what I am going to do for our wedding is a problem. I must fix this problem. To fix the problem I need your help: What do you think about a destination wedding? Would you be willing to travel to, say, Cancun Mexico for a long weekend? I think it would be super romantic! I've looked into it, and there are all inclusive resorts that offer gourmet cuisine, any kind of beverage you could possibly want, activities and luxurious beaches for about $200 a night.
If we hold the wedding in the US, many of the people who would attend our wedding would have to travel and pay for a hotel during a weekend anyway (plus food and stuff). The only difference Cancun would add is a couple of extra hours of travel time and beautiful beaches. It would be easier for my mom to obtain a visa for Mexico than the US. And, I really like the idea of our family and friends spending time together and getting to know each other in a relaxing environment before Alan and I tie the knot.
So, what do you think? I am trying to take a survey to determine if anybody would actually come. I know that it is a lot to ask of guests, and some may think it is a little self centered... so I would appreciate your honest opinion.
7 comments:
I think it's a brilliant idea! I, for one, would be down!
it's all about the timing for us (because of school and stuff). but it sounds really fun!
Where every you want to go, I'll be there. But local is better for most of the family. Love Tio Gregg.
Hi Margaret,
I agree with Tio Gregg; local would be better. It's very expensive to fly to Cancun and stay in $200 a night room for some of us!
I don't want to miss your Wedding, it's too important to me! Have you thought about the Brazillian Room in Tilden Park? Very pretty and not too $$$----
I hope you pick something in the Bay Area!
Love, Nana Joy
Hi love. You are right that if a lot of people have to travel anyway to get to your wedding, then you might as well have it somewhere fun. You know I'll be there with bells on no matter where it is (though I may require financial assistance if you want to have it in Africa or something). But a lot less of your friends and loved ones will be able to go. Your mom is definitely the most important consideration, so if that's the only way she can go, it sounds like a good idea. But just remember that a ton less people will be able to go. Also: haven't you heard that planning a destination wedding is super super hard??? If you work with a specific resort and get one of their "all inclusive wedding packages", they're going to gouge you, because they're assuming you won't want to call around in a foreign country to find yourself some deals. If saving your money is your biggest concern, you should definitely keep it close to where you live, or close to where someone close to you lives.
Also: stop freaking out! Whatever you do, it will be lovely. No matter what you find, you'll always hear of some cheaper/better/cooler idea after you're married. You just have to do what makes you happy, what doesn't infuriate your loved ones, and what you can sensibly afford.
Also: there will be no eloping. That will infuriate me. And then I won't give you free makeup anymore.
Yeah, what they said. If you guys go destination, we'll make it if there's any way we can, but it definitely adds not just money but complications - we'd drive to the bay and stay with friends or fam, vs. having to get A. a new passport and buy a pair of plane tix to Mexico. Plus hotel. Plus whatever hotel is charging for dinner. etc.
Also, unless you have guests who live in Mexico, you're asking EVERYONE to travel, not just those who live far away.
This is not to say that you shouldn't do it, or that we wouldn't go if you did - just that it's not exactly a choice between equal options.
To Jacqueline's very sensible advice, I add the following:
1. Yes, Cancun is beautiful, but people do not go to weddings for the backdrop. They go to look at youuuu. And you are beautiful. Alan is okayish also. =)
2. The wedding is, to my understanding, TWO YEARS AWAY. That is a very, very long time. No party (and yes this is a party) needs two years of stress and planning. You have tons of time to think about things, get sick of thinking about them, put them aside, and pick them up again later. Don't worry if decisions aren't getting made right this minute!
In response to your comments I have a few clarifications:
1. Yes, this is probably the only way my mom could come, unless we have the wedding in Venezuela, which would be farther away and probably more expensive for everyone.
2. Yes, I have friends in Mexico who would come (but they live in Cuernavaca).
3. I'm looking at All-inclusive resorts, which means that all the food is included in the price of the place (around 200 bucks), even airport transportation, So if you come you wouldn't have to spend any money aside from paying the resort and air fair. :)
4. You are right. I need to stop freaking out. Thank you for the support. I feel better now.
5. Taking it all into consideration... I think the Destination Wedding is a go. YAY!
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